When the Holidays Bring Clarity: Why December Is One of the Most Common Months to Seek Divorce Advice

By Leo Bezanis – Partner, Beermann LLP

The holiday season is often portrayed as the happiest time of the year — family gatherings, celebrations, traditions, and moments of reflection. But for many people, December is also the month where difficult questions become impossible to ignore.

As a family law attorney, I see the same trend every year: a spike in individuals quietly seeking guidance during the holidays. Not necessarily to file for divorce — but to finally get clarity.

Why the Holidays Trigger Reflection

The end of the year brings a natural pause. We slow down. We notice things we’ve been too busy to acknowledge. And the contrast between the season’s joy and the reality at home can be overwhelming.

Common holiday triggers include:

• Emotional distance during family gatherings

• Increased conflict or tension

• Pressure surrounding traditions

• Feeling alone, even in a full house

• The desire for a fresh start in the new year

The holidays don’t create marital issues — they reveal them.

People Aren’t Seeking Chaos — They’re Seeking Clarity

One of the biggest misconceptions is that people reach out in December because they’ve already decided to divorce. In reality, most people are simply looking for information:

• What are my rights?

• What would a separation look like?

• What happens with the children?

• What happens with the home?

• Would mediation work for us?

Understanding your options is not the same as making a decision.

It’s a way to reduce fear and regain control.

Why December Consultations Matter

Planning ahead is one of the most empowering things you can do. Even if you never file, gaining clarity can:

• Reduce stress

• Improve communication

• Help you set goals for the new year

• Protect your financial and emotional wellbeing

January is often called “Divorce Month” because that’s when people act.

But December is when they start preparing — quietly, thoughtfully, and privately.

If This Season Feels Heavy, You’re Not Alone

The holidays are complicated for many families. If you’re feeling overwhelmed or uncertain, it doesn’t mean you’re failing. It means you’re human.

Reaching out doesn’t create conflict — it creates clarity.

And whether you’re ready to take the next step or simply want to understand your options, I’m here to help you navigate the process with confidence and compassion.

Clear answers. No noise. Just the law — made simple.